Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Addiction - is it the drug or the endorphine or the lack of self love?


Found this article interesting: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.html

Even though it's on Huff Post!

Notice they point out that it's not really the chemicals that are addicting, but the lack of connection. The lack of being present in this moment, in our own skins, that's the issue. Addictions - drugs, behaviors - are just a way of dealing with hurt. If you remove the hurt or find a new way to deal with it, you are freed from addiction.

The way lies through becoming aware of, assimilating and taking care of our own feelings. But of course, nobody really wants to talk about feelings in our society.

Human beings are bonding animals. We need to connect and love. The wisest sentence of the twentieth century was E.M. Forster's -- "only connect." But we have created an environment and a culture that cut us off from connection, or offer only the parody of it offered by the Internet. The rise of addiction is a symptom of a deeper sickness in the way we live -- constantly directing our gaze towards the next shiny object we should buy, rather than the human beings all around us.
The writer George Monbiot has called this "the age of loneliness." 



We each individually have to find our own way to connect with ourselves. With our deepest selves, the one thing we were never taught how to do by parents who didn't know how to do it either.

It's the connection of our Adult self to the Inner Child or Original Self that bridges the gap, that puts down the pen, that snuffs out the addiction. When we listen to our deepest selves, we hear. We learn. We heal.

When we don't, we keep searching outside of ourselves for the one thing that's going to save us or at least make us feel better. Even if only temporarily. Like rats in a cage, we see the easy answer. But the easiest way is often the road to nowhere.

Buddha didn't get enlightenment by slacking off. It's not for sissies, this inner looking. It's not for quitters. It's a life long journey because we all bear so many hurts that it will take a lifetime to unravel them and let all our addictions - thought patters, behaviors or otherwise - go.